Brett's Story

History of Changing Lanes and the power of God to change the hopeless

Changing Lanes was been birthed out of a desire to follow God’s will. At the age of 8 years old I was exposed to the Playboy Channel in my home.  The rest of my years growing up, my identity was engulfed by pornography. My secret was my life and I was determined to hide it from all the people around me.  It was something I was embarrassed to admit I enjoyed. While in the middle of trying to find out how I should live my life as a male with a secret, I accepted Christ as my Lord. But there was no true repentance for this secret in my life.

At the age of 21, I married my beautiful bride, Christi. Early on in marriage, I tried to avoid porn. Each time ended in failure. I felt that I was alone.  Ashamed and fearful to lose everything, I kept my secret to myself. Each year that I kept the secret alive, I dug deeper into the realm of sexual addiction: pornography website, cyber chatting, chatting on the phone,  and finally meeting someone in person.  Each time things escalated and I indulged in the sinful act, I would go to God and ask for forgiveness. I believed “It’s me and God, we can work this out.” Never did I see a change in my heart, the secret only continued to get worse as I ended up meeting more women. In my selfish desire for change, I forgot a few small things required to overcome the addictions and find grace. Finally at the age of 30, a trio of events prompted by God, opened my eyes to the need to confess my addiction. Through some prompting from God, I confessed to my wife and my men’s small group. Everyone offered their love and support.  My confession brought relief and a removal of the burden of secrecy.

Jumping ahead 2 years, God again gave me a prompting to share my story with others. In October of 2006, I shared my story with my Sunday school class. Six months later, He prompted me several times to share with our church.  Christi and I shared our story with Liberty Church in Broken Arrow, OK on June 3, 2007.  Within a few hours of speaking to the church, God laid on my heart a desire to help others.

Starting in the fall of 2007, I have began to meet with men on a 1-on-1 basis to help them find victory over sexual addiction.  Continuing the path of obedience, I launched Changing Lanes in a small group format in 2010 to give men a place to find hope through confidential, open and Spirit led groups.

If you would like to hear the audio of my testimony to Liberty Church, please click on the link below and chose the sermon from June 3, 2007 “Are You Free?”:

Liberty Black